A lot of the time our minds are very much on the ‘go’, searching for solutions, problem solving and generally if we don’t tell our minds that we’d rather be more calm, less active, less stress then our minds will continue going around and around doing the same activity.
Sometimes it’s nice to take some time out of all this doing, and just be. Just sit or lie and breath. Maybe just notice the simple process of breathing. Just being us, just breathing. Not asking anything other of ourselves than breathing and realising the other qualities of just breathing.
Mindfulness is a long standing practice that allows us to decide and change how we react, think and behave – in a more considered way. We can still react as we wish to, but we’re making better decisions for ourselves and possibly those around us.
You can have a greater awareness of what you’d like and prefer think about, which is another positive step forward to better thought management. You can decide whether you go on the rollercoaster ride of chaotic thinking or not even get on the ride and do something you’d much prefer to do.
We call upon our experiences and knowledge many times a day, without thinking about the sequences consciously, for instance waking up, brushing our teeth. As well as this, we actively find information from our database of information, which again is a very useful tool.
However, it’s very easy, when feeling stressed or uncomfortable, to shuttle into the future, worrying and pondering, then throw ourselves back into the past, digging around for information, routines and results and maybe even picking at old emotional scabs.
Of course, thinking about the future and pondering about the past is useful and required. Being in the now is good, it’s just getting the balance right. Not digging around in the past too much nor worrying about the future, and completely disregarding the now.
What is useful is knowing where you are – are you in the past and what are you doing there and why are you thinking about the past? Are you worrying about the future? Have you spent some considerable time shuttling between one and the other? Has this been useful or has it made things worse for you?
Stop being a pin ball! Instead of being alike a pin ball in a pin ball machine, where you’re being pinged about all over the place and being hurtled from past to future and back again, you can develop a different approach. Such pinging about emotionally is very tiring and exhaustive.
Get off that crazy fair ground ride!
If you hate fair ground rides, like me, you’ll understand that this zooming about with seemingly very little control, is similar to being strapped in for a fair ride you really would prefer not to be on.
So, no more crazy fair ground rides or being a pin ball … so what is the other choice? Intentional Thinking (mindfulness) and taking back management of your thinking routines, patterns and processing.
In summary, you can be aware that
- thoughts aren’t real
- you can have better management of your thoughts and thinking processes/routines.
- You can decide what you do and how to use with your thoughts in a more positive way, for you.
- Developing and processing differently is possible, and can be learnt and practiced for all parts of your life.
- It’s been around for a very long time.
- Very simply, it’s the management of our thought processes and routines.
- Mindfulness is a great technique and tool to help manage our thought and thinking processes.
- It can help with stress management and negative thinking.
- It helps the process of enjoying the current moment, be that eating an apple or enjoying a beautiful view, rather than being stuck in the past or worrying about the future – getting the most out of our lives in the moment we are in.
What we can work on, and you can develop for yourself:
- How do we go from one mode of doing to the other of just being?
- Introduction to Mindfulness
- Intentional Thinking
- Thought management
- Mindfulness thinking – Just being me, in the now
- A new and positive approach
For more information on developing the above, please contact me.
Join me at one of my Introduction to Mindfulness Workshops – click here for events list